If 2008 was the year of promising change, what will 2009 be? Either a year of realizing change, or not. It's up to us. But as the Times reported on New Year's day, no doubt killing whatever buzz might have lingered on from the night before, change is one tough nut. Human beings find it extremely difficult to alter their lifestyles, no matter how earnest their resolutions might be. Case in point: Oprah Winfrey's return to the 200lb+ club. (This is the Times's example, not mine. I'm not one to dwell on Oprah's waistline.)
The article seems to have struck a national nerve: By 4pm, it was the paper's 14th most emailed story of the day.
Could it be that dissatisfaction isn't really the best motivator after all? Could it be that wanting your life to be better doesn't make it any easier to make it so? Is it possible that bad habits are really, really hard to break?
Yes, yes, and yes. Yes.
I propose that instead of resolving some kind of overhaul to your lifestyle -- whether it's quitting smoking, going to the gym more often, or spending less at restaurants -- how about just trying something new that's also healthy? Just once.
Here's why: If you break the ice with something that's outside your routine, you might want to keep it going. What starts as a novelty -- an experiment -- could turn into a new routine, one that becomes part of a new lifestyle.
Thanks to Facebook, I'm in touch with a number of friends I haven't seen in more than 10 years. One of them, Phil, recently remarked that he was "shocked" to learn that I'm running marathons. His mind jumped immediately to an image of me in high school, circa 1992, wearing an oversized sweater and smoking a cigarette in the parking lot. (I was artsy.)
Phil and I went to college together, too. There, we both smoked hand-rolled cigarettes and drank a lot of beer and wine. We wore thrift store sweaters until they were hanging off us like tattered rags. We rarely shaved. We were bohemian, or at least that's how we fancied ourselves.
By 22, I'd smoked a lot of cigarettes and put away a lot of cheap wine and even cheaper beer. I'd spent college immersed in books and smoky dens of ascetic debauchery. I was ready for something new, something intense.
Running seemed suitable. The first time I went, on my 23rd birthday in August of 1998, I stopped after half a mile, wheezing. But I liked how hard my heart was pumping, how I could feel every ounce of blood coursing through my veins. I liked how alive I felt, in between the gasps for air.
So I ran again the next day, with a little more success. I had no intention of ever running more than a few miles. I only did it because I liked the way it made me feel. Which, incidentally, was the exact same reason I started smoking cigarettes in high school.
After a few months, I was running daily and with more ease. Ten years later, I'm logging 45 miles a week. The photo to the right shows me racing head-to-head against Lance Armstrong in a 10K last March. (We're behind the two guys in black -- I'm on the left, Lance is on the right.) After 6.2 miles at a blistering 5:38 pace, I beat him by less than a second, a feat I never imagined possible when I smoked. So when I look back on my school days, I can easily see why Phil would be surprised that I'm no longer the college hippy with a shaggy beard, old corduroys and a filterless, hand-rolled shag between his fingers. It's a study in opposites.
But the moral is clear: I wasn't trying to quit smoking or to become healthier. I just wanted to try something new. Once I realized how much I enjoyed running, I started smoking less. Before long, I saw that smoking only got in the way of running. Since I preferred the latter, I just stopped smoking. Period. End of story.
It wasn't a resolution; it was a natural evolution. I'd been a smoker, now I was a runner. And unlike the dozens of people I know who've earnestly tried to quit many, many times, I haven't had the slightest urge to smoke since.
I don't know if others will benefit from this story, but I hope they will. For me, running wasn't about getting into shape or quitting a bad habit or even wanting to become a runner. To an extent, It was about taking advantage of having a body that wasn't disabled or already so damaged that I couldn't run. But most of all, it was about trying something new. And it stuck. I can't say the same for any new year's resolution I've ever made.
[Image: Patrick Cowden]